The conflict continues because the pattern continues

Change the pattern.
Change the outcome.

There is a structured path forward.

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From Reactivity to Strategic Stability — in 30 Days.

If you are in high-conflict co-parenting right now, the real risk isn’t the other parent. It’s reacting without a structured plan. Every impulsive message, every emotionally charged response, every moment of dysregulation quietly erodes your clarity and your credibility.

This 30-day system exists to change that.

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WHAT THIS ACTUALLY IS

This is a defined 30-day stabilization container.

It begins with a 20-minute Strategic Stability Call where we identify what is structurally driving your conflict — not what feels loud, but what is actually maintaining the cycle. From there, you receive a focused Conflict Pattern Diagnostic that shows you your primary escalation trigger and the specific stabilization priority.

Then we move through a clear four-week progression: first stabilizing your nervous system, then implementing strategic disengagement, then strengthening court presence and credibility, and finally integrating communication and structural boundaries.

There is no wandering through content libraries.
There is no guessing what to do next.
There is an order.

You don’t have to stay in survival mode —
there is a way out of the cycle.


High-conflict situations don’t get better with more reaction, more argument, or more stress.
They change when you learn how to disengage strategically, reclaim stability, and lead with structure.

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What High Conflict Really Does

If you’re here, you probably know the feeling:

  • Every interaction with your ex feels like stepping into a battlefield you never asked to enter.
  • A message can ruin your entire day.
  • Court notifications trigger fear instead of clarity.
  • Your nervous system stays in alert mode.
  • You wake up exhausted and go to sleep replaying every conflict.  

And in the middle of all of this, there is your child, watching, absorbing, trying to make sense of why the people they love the most can’t stop fighting.  

But it doesn’t have to stay this way.

My Journey From Being Trapped in My Own High-Conflict Divorce… to Helping Thousands of Parents Break Free

I don’t share this often.

Years ago, I went through a brutal, two-and-a-half year divorce — the kind filled with court battles, constant arguments, and enough stress to keep me awake for nights on end.

It was litigious, expensive, and emotionally draining. And I saw first-hand how the conflict was affecting my child.

During that time, someone said two things to me that changed everything:

“As goes the marriage, so goes the divorce.”
“Stay away from the flypaper.”

Those phrases hit me hard. They made me realize that if I kept reacting, I’d stay stuck in the same cycle forever.

That’s when I began to step back… and really look at what fuels high-conflict divorces. I realized most advice out there — from well-meaning therapists to aggressive lawyers — was only adding more gasoline to the fire.

And that’s how the High Conflict Diversion Program was born in 2002.

Since then, I’ve:

  • Taught classes to parents across the U.S., Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Puerto Rico and the UK

  • Trained instructors to teach the program nationwide

  • Written The Black Hole of High Conflict to share my strategies

  • Created and host The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast, reaching thousands of listeners worldwide

  • Worked in family court, seeing up-close how conflict destroys families

  • Guided hundreds of parents to break free from the fight and give their kids a peaceful home

Why You Can’t Wait

 Every day that the cycle continues:

Your child absorbs stress and tension. Your nervous system stays in fight-or-flight. Patterns embed deeper. Progress gets harder

You don’t just want relief.
You want direction.
And that direction starts with clarity — not chaos. 

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Our Most Popular Courses for Navigating High-Conflict Co-Parenting

Mastering High Conflict

Our most comprehensive online course. Build an oasis of calm in the challenge of high tension, creating a secure and happy environment for your children.

High Conflict Diversion Program Fundamentals

Designed for parents who are experiencing the challenges of a high conflict divorce and are seeking effective strategies to disengage from their co-parent.

Parallel Parenting Essentials

Co- parenting isn´t always the best option for every family. When conflicts persist and communication breaks down, it might be time for a new approach. Parallel parenting could be the solution you need to achieve the peace and well-being your children deserve.

Mastering High Conflict Series: Mini Course: Perfecting Disengagement

The art of disengagement is the first step towards a conflict-free live.

Lives Transformed

Testimonials from parents who’ve worked with me

It Starts Here.

Not with louder emotion.
Not with more reaction.
With a structured next step.

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